Sympathy Flowers Etiquette: 4 Tips in Choosing and Sending Condolence Wreath

Have you wondered about whether or not you should send condolence flowers to a funeral? Because the norm became slightly vague, it’s difficult to know what the etiquette is and whether to send condolence wreaths or flowers at all. This is especially because there are now casual flower arrangements available, from bouquets to live plants.

With all of the condolence flower arrangements to choose from, it can get confusing as to which one to get. There are various factors to consider, from your relationship with the deceased and/or survivors, down to their faith.

That said, read on for helpful tips on choosing condolence wreaths and how to send wreaths in Singapore or other areas around the world! 

Importance of Sending Condolence Wreaths 

If you’re planning on sending condolence flowers in Singapore, you might be wondering about its importance. The purpose of sending wreaths and flowers for condolences is to celebrate the life of the deceased and survivors. Just like sending flowers over to the heartbroken, you’ll want to show that you are there for the family in hopes to cheer them up, letting them know their loved one is cared for.

Whether you select a formal or informal floral arrangement, the aim is to provide comfort and lift the family’s mood, showing your care. When sending over an arrangement, avoid adding silly things like stuffed animals or balloons. Instead, it’s best to have a handwritten note or condolence card, care of your florist. 

The Faith 

You’ll want to consider the deceased (and their family’s) faith and culture before sending flowers. There are condolence flower arrangements and wreaths that may be appropriate for one culture but not for another. You can ask about the deceased’s culture and faith with a close family member.

Here are the common practices in terms of faith and religion:

• Christians and Roman Catholics – most flower arrangements and wreaths are fine, but avoid adding crucifixes and crosses.
• Eastern and Greek Orthodox – White condolence wreaths and flowers are more favored, though others are accepted.
• Jews – You can send flowers to the homes of the deceased family member. However, flowers at funeral homes won’t usually be displayed, while modern Jewish funerals may allow flowers at the synagogue entrance. It may be best to send fruit baskets instead.
• Baha’i and Buddhists – Most condolence flowers and wreaths are fine to send.
• Hindus – While floral arrangements are accepted, garlands are more favored and common in Hindu funerals.
• Muslims – This would depend on the Islamic religion, so it’s best to ask the family members. It may be best to keep the condolence flower arrangement or wreath simple yet elegant. 

The type of flowers to send can be orchids, lilies, carnations, chrysanthemums, roses, and gladioli. While these are recommended, you don’t need to stick to those flowers. You can ask the family member if they prefer particular flowers they (or the deceased) favor.

In terms of the color of the flowers, the most common flowers gifted are white, pink, yellow, lilac, or pale blue. These are pale and muted colors, chosen as opposed to bright colors that may be too cheerful. Avoid red in Asian countries when sending condolence flowers, which is associated more with good luck and happiness. 

Your Relationship with the Deceased 

If you are an immediate family member of the deceased, you can order any type of wreath flower or condolence flowers. Flowers from the family are usually placed closest to the casket during the wake, while others would be inside the casket. Casket wreaths or sprays are usually from the immediate family.

Extended family members would still have more options, such as a traditional standing spray to make the most impact. They may also give informal arrangements for the flowers to go to the cemetery or home with the immediate family.

For close friends or business associates of the deceased and/or the family, you can send standing sprays, basket arrangements, condolence wreaths, a bouquet in a vase, or live plants. Business associates may want to have the condolence flowers sent to the deceased’s office or house, placed in a basket or vase. 

When to Send Condolence Wreaths 

Condolence wreaths and floral arrangements are usually sent as soon as one hears the news of the death. But you can send the flowers over a few weeks after the funeral is over as well, showing that you’re thinking of the family.

Signing Funeral Wreaths 

Condolence flowers only need a short message. You may write it on your own, ask your florist to add a card, or you can search for inspiration online, from short quotes or poems. Place your full name as well for the recipient to know who it’s from. 

Wrapping It Up

If you are planning to send over condolence flowers to a close friend, relative, or business associate, do keep these tips in mind. When in doubt about what to send, you may choose a professional florist and seek their advice.